የኖርዌይ ወንዶች በዓለም ላይ ምርጥ ወንዶች ናቸው ብዬ አስብ ነበር። ግን ያ እውነት አይደለም! ባለቤቴ የሆነውን ሰው ከማግኘቴ በፊት ባንኮክ ውስጥ በሚገኝ ፋብሪካ ውስጥ እሠራ ነበር። እሱም በፓታያ ይኖር ነበር። በኢንተርኔት ተገናኝተን በመጨረሻ ጥንዶች ሆንን።
I thought Norwegian men were the best men in the world, but that is not true! Before I met the man who became my husband, I worked in a factory in Bangkok, and he lived in Pattaya. We met through the Internet and eventually became a couple.
ከጥቂት ጊዜ በኋላ ለመጋባት ወሰንን። የመጣሁት ከድሃ ቤተሰብ ነው። ስለዚህ ቤተሰቤን የሚያስተዳድር የውጭ አገር ባል ማግኘቴ እሱን ለማግባት አንዱ ምክንያት ነበር።
After a while we decided to get married. I came from a poor family, so having a foreign husband who could take care of my family was part of my reason for marrying him.
ወደ ኖርዌይ ተዛወርን እና ኖርዌይኛ ለመማር ትምህርት ቤት መሄድ ጀመርኩ። አስቸጋሪ ጊዜ ነበር። የመንጃ ፍቃድ አልነበረኝም። እናም ባለቤቴ በመኪና ወደ ትምህርት ቤት ይዞኝ ይሄዳል፣ ይጠብቀኝ እና ተመልሰን በመኪና መውሰድ ነበረበት። በእያንዳንዱ መንገድ አንድ ሰዓት ነበር። ከትንሽ ቆይታ በኋላ ወደ ሚቀርበን ቀየርን። እሱ ግን አሁንም ወደ ትምህርት ቤት መውሰዱን ኣልተወም። ብቻዬን እንድሄድ አልፈለገም።
We moved to Norway, and I started going to school to learn Norwegian. It was a difficult time. I did not have a driver’s licence, and my husband had to drive me to school, wait for me, and drive back. It was an hour each way. After a while we moved closer, but he still insisted on driving me to school. He did not want me to walk alone.
ኖርዌይ ከመጣሁ ጀምሮ ምንም ገንዘብ የለኝም። አንድ ጊዜ ባለቤቴ ለምሳ ገንዘብ ሰጠኝ። ነገር ግን በጣም ትንሽ ገንዘብ ስለነበር ኣስቀመጥኩት። በትምህርት ቤት ያሉ ጓደኞቼ ሥራ እንዳገኝ ሊረዱኝ ይፈልጋሉ። ባለቤቴ ግን እንደማልችል ነገረኝ። እንደ ጽዳት መሥራት ለእኔ ተገቢ ነው ብሎ አያስብም።
I have hardly had any money since I came to Norway. Once, my husband gave me money for lunch, but since I had so little money, I kept it. My friends at school want to help me to get a job, but my husband says I cannot. He does not think working as a cleaner is appropriate for me.
ይልቁንም ለእኔ ሌላ ሥራ ሰጠኝ። ጋራዥ መሥራት። እሱ አለቃ ነበር እኔ ደሞ ሁሉንም ነገር እሰራለው። ስለታመመ ብዙ መሥራት አልቻለም። ጋራዡን በመገንባት ካገኘው ገንዘብ ምንም አልሰጠኝም።
Instead he had another job for me – building a garage. He was the boss and I did everything. He could not do much because he was ill. He did not give me any of the money he made from building the garage.
አንድ ቀን እቤት ብቻውን ሲሆን አንደሚደብረው እና ስለዚ ውሻ አንደሚያስፈልገን ወሰነ። እኔ ደሞ ከትምህርት በኋላ ስለሚደከምኝ እና የቤት ስራ ስላለኝ ውሻ አልፈልግም። ውሻውን በየቀኑ ውጪ አንደሚያወጣው ነግሮኛል ነገር ግን በመጨረሻ ውሻውን እና ሽማግሌ ባለቤቴን መንከባከብ ግድ ሆነብኝ።
One day he said he was bored when he was home alone, so he decided we should get a dog. I did not want a dog as I was tired after school and I had homework to do. He said he would walk the dog every day, but in the end I had to take care of both the dog and my old husband.
ወደፊት ምን እንደሚያመጣ አላውቅም። እቅዴ ወደ ሌላ ትምህርት ቤት መሄድ ነው። ነገር ግን ባለቤቴ ያንን እንዳደርግ አይፈልግም። እኔን አስቸጋሪ ለማድረግ የበለጠ ርቆ ለመሄድ እያሰበ ነው። መታገስ አፈልጋለው ግን አንዴት አንደሆነ አላውቅም። እኔ እንዳሰብኩት ባዕድ አገር ከሽማግሌ ጋር መኖር ቀላል አይደለም።
I do not know what the future will bring. My plan is to go to another school, but my husband does not want me to do that. He is planning to move further away to make it difficult for me. I want to resist, but I do not know how. It is not as easy to live in a foreign country with an old man as a husband as I thought it would be.
